Unsatisfied? That may be good.
To be satisfied or not to be satisfied, that is the question! I see people struggle with this a lot. I’ve struggled with it myself in fact. Maybe you feel unsatisfied in some area of your life and you’re left feeling guilty about it as if feeling unsatisfied was a bad thing. People tend to associate being unsatisfied with being unthankful or unhappy. But believe it or not, we can be thankful, happy, and not satisfied.
I think dissatisfaction plays a similar role in our lives that pain plays to our bodies. We hate pain. Pain sucks. It hurts! But it’s also a blessing.
Pain is our body’s way of signaling us that something’s not right. Without pain, we wouldn’t make a change that is necessary for our well-being. For example, if you placed your hand on a hot stovetop, your nerves would send out a signal of danger, causing you to lift your hand immediately. If you didn’t feel pain, you wouldn’t think to take your hand off the hot element and your poor hand would continue to sit there, getting burned. Ouch!
In the same way, dissatisfaction invokes change in our lives. It’s because of this that we can take the necessary steps to make it right. Bob Proctor goes as far as saying you should never be satisfied. Dissatisfaction is a creative state. It was dissatisfaction that gave us the incandescent light and it was dissatisfaction that gave us new means of communication.
Aldous Huxley stated that “to be excited is still to be unsatisfied.” And Stephen Covey stated that “satisfied needs don’t motivate. It’s only the unsatisfied need that motivates.” Are we seeing a connection here?
When my husband became unsatisfied at a former job, it caused him to start looking at his options and gave him the courage to walk through an open door. Guess what? From there, his expertise increased, his pay scale increased and his confidence increased. Had dissatisfaction never sunk in, or had he suppressed it, he would have never walked through that open door and he would still be in the exact same place today, years later.
Growth is painful. Change is painful. But they’re not as painful as staying somewhere you don’t belong.
Am I unsatisfied? You bet! Am I happy and excited about new things to come? You bet! If I didn’t have dissatisfaction, I wouldn’t be working towards new goals and I wouldn’t have the excitement that I have today because of that. I mean, think about it. Why do we set goals for ourselves in the first place? Because we’re unsatisfied!
Where are you feeling unsatisfied? Whether it be in your job, your health, or your own personal development (after all, we should never stop growing, right?), embrace it! It just means it’s time to start taking the necessary steps towards changing it, achieving a new goal, and bettering your life.
Continual dissatisfaction means continual growth to the person who is willing to take action.