In short answer, you can’t. Arguments don’t solve problems and nobody wins. Plain and simple. Most married couples will confirm that neither of them leaves an argument feeling like a winner. Why is that? Because by telling someone they’re wrong, you’ve struck a direct blow at their intelligence, judgement, pride, and self-respect. Their first instinct is not to agree with you but to strike back in defensiveness. Even if in the end you feel you’ve “won” the argument, you’ve lost your partner’s good will. The only way to win is to avoid the argument all together.In Dale Carnegie’s book, “How to Win Friends and Influence People” he references an article from Bits and Pieces about how to keep a disagreement from becoming an argument. These tips can be implemented in any relationship, whether it be in a marriage or a working environment.